
Well, in my own words, having exceptional persuasion skills is one of the most essential abilities to possess in today's fast-paced society. We need the support and cooperation of other people to help us in our goal setting efforts. The saying "No man is an island" is an undeniable truth.
You can actually effectively influence and persuade anyone you desire. The fact is, you pretend to be Nice and Friendly. Watch, this is pretend, sometimes we think I should be nice and friendly; the worst thing I can tell you, you're still pretending. You intented to be friendly not because of nature of heart but a goal to set. (Still I have to continue with this..)
Well, smile to brighten up the day. Make a sincere compliment to encourage and raise their spirits. Simple little things like these count a lot. Make them feel that whenever they need support or just someone who can give them guidance, you'll always be there to lend a hand. They would tend to be more receptive to people that they trust and respect. This is art of Persuasion.
P.S.
If you want to ask your boss a favor, do everything you can to please him. Overdeliver and exceed his expectations. Soon, he will notice your efforts and can easily be receptive to your persuasion efforts.
Next, the evil of you enter their world!
You must understand the situation according to their point of view. Set aside your personal interests and focus on them. This is what you would do, don't you?
Just pretend that if you are them, what would you do? What would be your suggestion? Then take the appropriate action that would be beneficial to them.
Copy them. Observe how they act, how they speak, and how they think. If they rub their hands while they talk to you, act like them. If they speak at a clear and slow pace, try to do the same thing. This is called mirroring.
In due time, the people you're mirroring will subconsciously feel more comfortable with you. It's as if they see themselves in you.
However, you must proceed with caution. Mirroring is different from mimicry. Do not let them be aware that you are copying them. They might interpret it as mockery and you'll just get into hot water. And this is another art of persuasion.
Hence, the next thing you would do is to provide them with undeniable proof or evidence.
Explain to them how your ideas or opinions could be the most effective methods to implement. Show them undeniable proof that you have the best product by way of testimonials, before and after scenarios, and detailed comparisons against your competitors. Just make sure that all your claims are true and verifiable. Always maintain a good reputation.
At last, bing their mind and satisfy their existing needs and wants.
People are self-centered. They are initially concerned with their own well-being before others. If you can prove that your proposal will provide more advantages to them than to your own, then they will probably accept it. But beware, use the point wisely, you could only fit them in the appropriate situation. (How evil are you?)
If you could concentrate more on their interests, desires, needs, and expectations, then you would satisfy their cravings for attention. Moreover, it would show that you really care about them. Mutual trust and respect would be established.
This is the most important thing to remember when persuading anyone. No matter how close you are to becoming like them or how compelling your evidence is, if it does not satisfy the "What's In It For Me?" test, your persuasion endeavors will not produce satisfactory results. Always bear in mind how they will benefit from your actions. Be wise and this is Art of Persuasion.
From the research of ARM, No.16 (S.T. to No.52 & Prof Andrew Mayne featuring The Mind)
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